My mom went through a terrible divorce about 3 years ago. My dad cheated on her and left her right before Christmas for a younger woman. My mom didn't take it well at all. She began drinking heavily and popping pills for sleep, for stress, for anxiety, for you name it, she would get a prescription from her doctor. After a while, she started abusing them and began drinking even more heavily until she was just completely a wreck. She was fired from her job (where she worked over 15 years) for being incompetent. She couldn't perform the duties she had been doing fine with for 15 years. Her boss was also a close friend of the family so I know it was bad. Unfortunately, I didn't live near her during this time and had no idea things had gotten so bad.
Anyways, about a month after getting fired, my sister showed up to my mom's house to find a suicide note on the kitchen counter, and her laying in her bed, unconscious and a faint pulse. She called the fire dept and got my mom to the hospital and they saved her. We found out, she ate a bottle of Ambien and a bottle of Xanax. She had kidney and liver failure, but they managed to do something to them to turn them back on... (there is a point to me telling this part of the story)
Anyways, she then could not live on her own obviously, so she went to live with my sister, her boyfriend and their 2 children in Nevada.
After the incident, my mom continued to drink and said she stopped taking pills. Whether she did or did not, I don't know. I DO know that things got so bad out in Nevada that my sister kicked her out because she drove with the kids in the car while she was drunk and she didn't want her kids exposed to a drunk every single day as they were so young. So she moved in with a man she met who was abusive to her and most likely taking advantage of her situation. I know she would call me drunk and scared out of her mind at this man and I would sometimes hear him yelling at her. I then said, enough with the crap, come to San Diego and move in with me. I will take car of you. I will get you into rehab and get you on your feet again. She came down. It took me a few months and a few VERY scary situations before I got her into a rehab program. As she left the rehab center, her advisor said he wanted us to make a contract. One that said, if she relapses, there needs to be consequences. Severe ones, and that would help her to stay sober as well. We made a veral contract agreement that if she relapsed, she would move into a sober living home for o less than 6 months. We agreed on it.
She was clean from pills and alcohol for 1 year. About a week after her 1 year anniversary of being sober, she got drunk, and stayed drunk for about a week. I knew she did and I called her out on it and she denied it for a while. Then she admitted it and told me she was sorry and wouldn't do it again. She seemed like she was doing better again. Then she went to Nevada to see my sister and visit a friend. My sister said on the last day she was there, she got drunk, was falling all over the house and was slurring her words. I ask my mom about it, she denied it and because I wasn't there to see or hear it, I discounted it because I don't want to make a strong accusation without proof.
This week, last night, she was hammered and I found alcohol hidden in her room. She STILL denies it, and refuses to acknowledge that she drank even though it is COMPLETELY OBVIOUS!
My question is, I called her out, and I told her I want her to move out. She says no, because she didn't drink. Should I move out, or what should I do? And How??!
(There is another sober person living in my house and my mom's problem is making the other girl VERY uncomfortable.)
Either we both leave or my mom leaves. HELP!!!
